How to Say ‘No’: 9 Tips for Autistic Individuals

Nine strategies that help saying ‘no’ and building healthier and stronger relationships.

Being able to say ‘no’ is a crucial skill, especially for autistic individuals. It helps you set boundaries and protect yourself from overload. Here are some strategies to help you say ‘no’ clearly and assertively.

Challenges in Saying ‘No’

Setting boundaries can be difficult for everyone, but it can be especially challenging for autistic people due to potential sensitivities to social stimuli and fear of negative reactions. Nonetheless, prioritizing your well-being is essential.

Strategies for Assertiveness

1. Maintain Eye Contact and Use an Open Body Posture

• When you say ‘no,’ make eye contact and use an open body posture. This reinforces your message and shows that you are resolute. Speak with a clear voice to give your words extra weight.

2. Refer to Limitations (Optional)

• Explain that you have certain boundaries due to autism. For example: “Because of my autism, I have difficulty with sensory overload. Can we have this conversation in a quieter environment?” This helps others understand your…