As an autistic I often avoid eye contact to listen better, finding it exhausting and distracting, needing understanding and alternative communication.
In social situations, I often find eye contact uncomfortable or exhausting. Many people see this as a problem that needs fixing because they consider eye contact essential for social and emotional communication. However, for me, eye contact is neither the only nor the best way to connect with others.
Scientific studies indicate that people with autism, like myself, avoid eye contact because it makes us uncomfortable. Eye contact can trigger feelings of discomfort or anxiety, making it genuinely unpleasant for us. Other studies show that my brain consumes more energy when I have to understand social signals and eye expressions.
When I look into someone’s eyes, I tend to notice their beauty rather than the emotions they might convey. While I can admire countless beautiful eyes, I have yet to discern any emotions in them. Despite my aversion to eye contact, I enjoy studying the various details, colors, and anatomical beauty of eyes. I am particularly fascinated by women’s eyes without makeup.
When it comes to eye contact, I distinguish between indifferent gazing and intentional avoidance. It’s not that I actively avoid looking into others’…
