A review of ‘But Everyone Feels This Way’ by Paige Layle

@Tistje
3 min readApr 19, 2024

Examining Paige Layle’s “But Everyone Feels This Way” demands rigorous scrutiny, both in terms of its content and the broader implications it holds for autistic representation in literature.

Problematic Generalizations and Personal Bias

Layle’s narrative, deeply personal and reflective of her own experiences, sometimes strays into the realm of over-generalization. While her personal journey is undeniably valid, the extrapolation of her individual experiences to the broader autistic community can be problematic. Autism is a spectrum with a wide range of manifestations, and no single account can encapsulate the diversity within this community. By positioning her narrative as a somewhat universal autistic experience, Layle risks perpetuating misconceptions about what autism ‘looks like.’

Style and Accessibility

From a stylistic perspective, Layle’s prose is engaging but can occasionally become overly colloquial and disjointed. This could potentially alienate readers who prefer a more structured narrative or those who find non-linear storytelling confusing. For autistic readers who appreciate predictability and clear logical progression in literature, the narrative style of jumping between timelines and topics might be disorienting.

Treatment of Sensitive Topics

Layle’s candidness in discussing sensitive issues such as mental health, emotional abuse, and her struggles with societal norms is commendable. However, the depth of analysis concerning the interplay between autism and these complex issues sometimes lacks the nuance needed to avoid sensationalism. The book delves into personal trauma and societal critique but does so with a broad brush that misses an opportunity for deeper, more thoughtful exploration.

Repetitive Themes and Insights

Throughout the book, certain themes recur, such as the misunderstanding of autistic behaviors by neurotypicals and the challenges of misdiagnosis. While these are undoubtedly central issues within the autistic community, Layle’s reiteration of these points sometimes borders on redundancy, which might test the patience of readers seeking new insights or advanced discourse on neurodiversity.

Lack of Practical Solutions

One of the most critical shortcomings of Layle’s work is the scarcity of actionable advice or solutions. While it’s clear that the book aims to raise awareness and foster understanding, it falls short in providing concrete steps that readers — whether they are autistic individuals, caregivers, or professionals — can take to improve understanding or support for the autistic community. This omission is particularly glaring given the book’s potential as a tool for advocacy and change.

Conclusion

In summary, “But Everyone Feels This Way” by Paige Layle provides a heartfelt glimpse into the life of one autistic individual, with vivid storytelling and raw emotional honesty. However, as a piece of autistic representation, it is somewhat limited by its anecdotal nature, lack of diverse perspectives, and occasional lapse into generalization. For those seeking an in-depth, multifaceted exploration of autism, Layle’s narrative might be seen as just one piece of a much larger puzzle that is yet to be adequately assembled in literature.

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@Tistje

Ervaringswerker autisme / Autistic Advocate / Autism Ambassador